Tag: self esteem

Fear Can Suck the Life Out of You

Text placeholder (1)I would recommend writing to anybody and everybody. It provides a way to deal with things that we sometimes don’t like to think about as being directly related to ourselves. I have found that if you write about it, you can remove yourself from it and look at it in a more objective way.

Sometimes, in order to be able to deal with things, we just need to see them in a different light. You don’t have to write a novel, unless you want to. Journaling or keeping a note app on your phone for thoughts that come to you when you’re doing other things can work great. I derive some kind of inner strength from this exercise.

It’s like you can create your own personal dragon in the story world and then slay it, even if you can’t necessarily do that in the real world yet. And that can sometimes give you that little ounce of courage to try it for real.

The Me I Am Right Now Is Okay

love meThe me that I am right now is okay.

That one is so difficult to master. I got married when I was 18. I was a widow when I was 19. Working to overcome tragedy at that tender age has taught me some tough lessons.

  1. No matter how tough it is, it IS temporary. It WILL get better. Time helps and things can change in an instant…sometimes even for the better.
  2. Cut yourself some slack. If you’re doing the best you can, then that’s good enough.
  3. Focus on what you can do today. Right now. Small accomplishments add up.

The Importance of Belief

untitled-design-2The Importance of Belief
As a writer, you have to have a certain amount of faith in yourself to even get the first word onto the page. Then, you start to doubt. You doubt yourself, your talent, the software you use, the marketing you’re doing, whether anyone cares what you have to say. It is a war that is won, one battle at a time.
First of all, stop speaking to yourself so negatively. We talk to ourselves with words that we wouldn’t say to our worst enemy. If you keep telling yourself terrible things, eventually you start to believe them.
Second, there are things about ourselves we all can work on. Put a positive spin on it and give yourself credit for working toward improvement. If you are writing, that is a step toward your goal! Yay, you!
It has been my experience that positive affirmations work! No, it won’t make you brilliant or rich or famous overnight. What it does for me is help shift energy from feeding into negativity to powering the positive goals I have for myself.
Don’t waste time or energy beating yourself up. Believe.