Tag: health

There Is No Magic Formula

Add a headingI LOVE the Rival Sons. Yes, the caps are necessary so strongly it is I feel about this band and yes, I am too old to fan girl, but I do over them. Have you seen Jay Buchanan perform? Ahem, anyway, they recorded a song called “Keep on Swinging” and it is the perfect anthem to what our work ethic should be. The lyrics say, “Gonna keep my head down, and keep on swingin.”

To me, this symbolizes the man praying and hoping, but continuing to work toward his goal. And no matter what we do, this is how we should go about it. I feel like some of us are being taken to the cleaners for stuff that promises some kind of miracle or secret formula that if we can just perform correctly, all our wildest dreams will come true. Not so. Where I come from, they used to call these people snake oil salesmen, which reminds me of a Steve Earle song I dearly love called Snake Oil, but I digress.

Don’t beat yourself up if you’re trying all this stuff and it’s not working, just don’t quit! Pray, meditate, visualize, set your intentions, whatever it is you do for your soul, and work hard, keep learning.

Incidentally, Rival Sons have been recording kick ass music since 2009 and only just this week reached number 1 on the Billboard charts. The only other time they even made the chart was with Keep on Swinging in 2013. There’s a lot to be said for hanging in there.

Get Up and Get Back On

JUST GET UP AND GET BACK ON

As children, we rode on bicycles with no helmets and sailed downhill on paved surfaces as fast as we could possibly go and even when we crashed and came to a sliding halt face first, we didn’t quit. We got back on.

We got back at each other by seeing who could stay on the merry-go-round the longest and not hurl. Or else who could stay on the longest with twenty people pushing it and not die. And we got back on.

We did penny drops from the highest freaking bar on the death trap they liked to call the monkey bars. We fell face first into the gravel and broke our nose and bled all over ourselves. Guess what? WE GOT BACK ON!

Are you seeing a theme, here? You get knocked down, knocked off, dragged through the mud. You get up and you get back on. 😉

But how? How, when you are hurt, or you are embarrassed or afraid?

You talk hard to life. You get competitive with it and tell it that it’s not gonna beat you. It may get the upper hand once in a while, but you are the freaking master!  Because it’s us against life, my friend, not each other, and we’re all out here just trying to stay on.

The Greatest Strength

Text placeholder (3)I want to tell you that you are going to make it through the rough times. Bad shit happens. There’s no way around it, might as well call a spade a spade. I’m not sure who started the rumor that life is perfect every single second, but it ain’t. It’s not a Facebook or Insta photoshopped layout, it’s up and down and around and getting your head wrung out. Remember that you are not alone in it. Somewhere, someone is going through bad times, too. We all do. And somewhere, someone cares that you are suffering. There is still good out there! Good, great, beautiful also happens. Every. Single. Day. Everybody has scars. Scars heal and fade away, but remain visible as a reminder that you are strong enough to make it through to see the good times again.

 

Do You Tell?

woman working girl sittingI’ve only recently come out of the writing closet. For years, I have written secretly, under cover of darkness. I’m not sure if I was more afraid of what readers would think of my work or what my family would say.

Most of my family don’t know I write steamy romance novels.  I daresay that their disapproval of my genre choice would be detrimental to my writing and my progress as a person. Therefore, I keep my author self separate from them because at the end of the day, I must write.

So many times we are held back because of the fear of judgement. Why do we do that? Let’s build each other up, instead! The things we could do (for each other and the world)!

Starting Over Everyday

 

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There’s something to be said for being present, in the moment, mindful. Whatever you like to call it, it is a powerful tool for dealing with stress and anxiety. For my own self, I try to make it a rule not to beat myself up for the events or disappointments from the day before. I allow myself to make new goals and start over everyday if need be.

I have found that being stuck in the past, worrying about things that I cannot change or have no control over, robs me of the energy I need to bring about the things that I want. I hope you will allow yourself that freedom and that it helps you to be less anxious so that you can focus on the things that make you happy. 🙂

The Me I Am Right Now Is Okay

love meThe me that I am right now is okay.

That one is so difficult to master. I got married when I was 18. I was a widow when I was 19. Working to overcome tragedy at that tender age has taught me some tough lessons.

  1. No matter how tough it is, it IS temporary. It WILL get better. Time helps and things can change in an instant…sometimes even for the better.
  2. Cut yourself some slack. If you’re doing the best you can, then that’s good enough.
  3. Focus on what you can do today. Right now. Small accomplishments add up.
  4. LOVE AND FORGIVE YOURSELF!