I want to tell you that you are going to make it through the rough times. Bad shit happens. There’s no way around it, might as well call a spade a spade. I’m not sure who started the rumor that life is perfect every single second, but it ain’t. It’s not a Facebook or Insta photoshopped layout, it’s up and down and around and getting your head wrung out. Remember that you are not alone in it. Somewhere, someone is going through bad times, too. We all do. And somewhere, someone cares that you are suffering. There is still good out there! Good, great, beautiful also happens. Every. Single. Day. Everybody has scars. Scars heal and fade away, but remain visible as a reminder that you are strong enough to make it through to see the good times again.
Now before you go and insert some kind of subtext into that, let me explain. As a writer, my whole goal is to reach inside your mind, your heart, your soul…and touch you.
I want to make you love and hate. I want you to be afraid and escape with your life. Nothing makes me happier than for your heart to race, wondering what’s coming next, and then take you to places you might not go on your own.
Trust me! I don’t want to hurt you…I only want to make you afraid that I will break your heart into little bitty bits and walk away, leaving you breathless and alone. But, I wouldn’t do that. Would I?
What they don’t tell you about Valentine’s Day
- It’s not all hearts and roses-it marks the execution of Valentine; a priest who performed marriages against the Roman Emperor’s order during times of war.
- It started as a Roman holiday where the men would hit women with bloody strips of animal hide made from sacrificial animals to bring about fertility and play “love games” in front of the crowd.
- Chocolate was prescribed to ease certain “pinings” for love by doctors in the 1800s; it is now a billion dollar holiday for the chocolate industry, which also has a dark history including child slavery.
- Most people view Cupid as a matchmaker, but he is the son of Venus, goddess of love, and Mars, god of war. Could explain some things? Just sayin.
- You don’t need a holiday to tell people you love them.
If you’re into dark romance or romantic thrillers, check out my book on Amazon.
The Prairies Book Review
A speedy, dark romantic thriller with a suitably chilling ending…
Wren Bouchard arrives in scenic mountain town of Valley Spring, Colorado after fleeing a life of abuse and torture and found herself instantly drawn to mysterious and handsome, Croy Parker. As she starts to envision a life full of love and safety, her past returns to haunt her. From the very first page, the tension subtly rises as Wren’s life with notorious hitman, Aidan Luciano unravels, revealing an abusive relationship rooted in deeply sadistic practices. Bloodworth takes a fresh outlook on an old, tried formula and successfully pens down an emotionally resonant story of love, loss, grief, and renewal.
If you really want to write a book, there must be a time when you put your foot down and say, “This is what I want.” This is particularly true if you are still writing as a side hustle. If you continue to try and please everyone else, you will never make or take the time you need to write that book, which is what will make you happy as a writer. It’s not being selfish. If you are unhappy because you are too busy trying to make other people happy, then you are going to feel unfulfilled and frustrated. Negative vibes! If you are happy, then you naturally feed positive energy that radiates to everyone around you. Bonus: it comes back to you, too.
Some people are energy vampires! (And not the kind you find in abandoned castles!) Think I’m kidding? Ever been around someone that just drains you emotionally and you can’t put your finger on the reason why? It’s not fantasy, they exist. If someone takes the good energy from you and doesn’t reciprocate by being a friend to you when you need them, then they are emotionally draining. Proceed with caution!
Sometimes, it’s hard to love people and do what you need to do for yourself, but you have to learn to practice self care. Nobody says you can’t do it in a nice way. You can stick up for yourself and say what you want and need. It is not mean or selfish or unkind to keep yourself healthy and happy (or to be able to pay the rent).
“Don’t dream it, be it.” -Dr. Frank N. Furter (Guilty! I love that movie!)
I’ve only recently come out of the writing closet. For years, I have written secretly, under cover of darkness. I’m not sure if I was more afraid of what readers would think of my work or what my family would say.
Most of my family don’t know I write steamy romance novels. I daresay that their disapproval of my genre choice would be detrimental to my writing and my progress as a person. Therefore, I keep my author self separate from them because at the end of the day, I must write.
So many times we are held back because of the fear of judgement. Why do we do that? Let’s build each other up, instead! The things we could do (for each other and the world)!
My whole mindset is different at night. I have the “get things done” state of mind going on during the daylight hours, but when nighttime rolls around and things get quiet, my mind shifts gears.
NaNoWriMo even has a night of writing dangerously. Maybe it’s ingrained into us to behave and think differently at night. Maybe it’s all the spooky things that lurk in the dark corners of our consciousness. Everything is mystical and poetic through the lens of sunless silence.
Sometimes, you sip coffee, scribble in your notebook, and something magical happens. You wake up, read what you wrote the night before and think, “Holy hell, where did that come from?” and feel like an insomniatic god.
Maybe try it at night, in the dark, or by moonlight.
About ten years ago, I finished my first book. I was so proud and excited, I immediately started sending out query letters only to be rejected multiple times just like all authors before me. Enter Amazon self-publishing. Okay, self, new plan. I could go with it. I designed a cover, uploaded it, and was off to the races. People downloaded. Some people even liked it! I was thrilled. And then came the one terrible review. The one that brought all my momentum to a screeching halt. She didn’t like my work at all and was not shy in telling the world about it.
I stopped writing. I don’t generally give up easily, but in my mind, if one person hated it so much, then surely there would be others. I pulled the book from Amazon and went on with the rest of my life. I gave up.
My work is not above reproach. No one’s work is perfect. I just want to tell you, don’t let negativity stop you from doing what you want to do. Instead, let it drive you to be better, to work harder, to obtain that goal you have set for yourself. I have finally learned to accept criticism and use it as positive redirection and that has made all the difference.
The only person that can stop you, is you.