- Cry Little Sister (L.A. Guns)
- Don’t Close Your Eyes (Kix)
- Ballad of Jayne (L.A. Guns)
- Nobody’s Fool (Cinderella)
- Fly to the Angels (Slaughter)
- Edie (Ciao Baby)
- House of Pain (Faster Pussycat)
I’ve only recently come out of the writing closet. For years, I have written secretly, under cover of darkness. I’m not sure if I was more afraid of what readers would think of my work or what my family would say.
Most of my family don’t know I write steamy romance novels. I daresay that their disapproval of my genre choice would be detrimental to my writing and my progress as a person. Therefore, I keep my author self separate from them because at the end of the day, I must write.
So many times we are held back because of the fear of judgement. Why do we do that? Let’s build each other up, instead! The things we could do (for each other and the world)!
My whole mindset is different at night. I have the “get things done” state of mind going on during the daylight hours, but when nighttime rolls around and things get quiet, my mind shifts gears.
NaNoWriMo even has a night of writing dangerously. Maybe it’s ingrained into us to behave and think differently at night. Maybe it’s all the spooky things that lurk in the dark corners of our consciousness. Everything is mystical and poetic through the lens of sunless silence.
Sometimes, you sip coffee, scribble in your notebook, and something magical happens. You wake up, read what you wrote the night before and think, “Holy hell, where did that come from?” and feel like an insomniatic god.
Maybe try it at night, in the dark, or by moonlight.
About ten years ago, I finished my first book. I was so proud and excited, I immediately started sending out query letters only to be rejected multiple times just like all authors before me. Enter Amazon self-publishing. Okay, self, new plan. I could go with it. I designed a cover, uploaded it, and was off to the races. People downloaded. Some people even liked it! I was thrilled. And then came the one terrible review. The one that brought all my momentum to a screeching halt. She didn’t like my work at all and was not shy in telling the world about it.
I stopped writing. I don’t generally give up easily, but in my mind, if one person hated it so much, then surely there would be others. I pulled the book from Amazon and went on with the rest of my life. I gave up.
My work is not above reproach. No one’s work is perfect. I just want to tell you, don’t let negativity stop you from doing what you want to do. Instead, let it drive you to be better, to work harder, to obtain that goal you have set for yourself. I have finally learned to accept criticism and use it as positive redirection and that has made all the difference.
The only person that can stop you, is you.
- Don’t Bring Me Down (Electric Light Orchestra)
- Spirit in the Sky (Norman Greenbaum)
- Give A Little Bit (Supertramp)
- Jet Airliner (Steve Miller)
- Listen to the Music (The Doobie Brothers)
- Life’s Been Good (Joe Walsh)
- You Ain’t Seen Nothin Yet (Bachman Turner Overdrive)
- China Grove (Doobie Brothers)
- Stuck in the Middle with You (Jim Hornsby)
- Burnin for You (Blue Oyster Cult)
- Crazy on You (Heart)
- Sister Christian (Night Ranger)
- Sunshine Superman (Donovan)
Here’s a list of the apps and programs I’ve been using lately to help me write and market my writing. Some of these have been awesome time savers and I just thought I’d pass them along to those interested.
- Scrivener. I love this software. I still use Word primarily for writing, but this program has helped me to organize my thoughts, pre-writing, first drafts, plot outlines, and character and scene details in one place.
- Pinterest. Pinterest gets the ideas flowing and allows me to get visual cues for the world and characters I’m trying to create.
- Canva. This has been the easiest to use stock photography and graphic program I’ve tried. Love the photo editor.
- Coffitivity. This site lets you listen to different coffee shop backgrounds if you are more productive with a static noise rather than music.
- Book Report. This is an add-on for Chrome that lets me see exactly how much money I’ve made from Amazon.
- Kindlepreneur. Great website with a ton of information about Amazon, keywords, ad strategies, and more.
- Upwork. This site lets you find independent editors, ghost writers, proofreaders, book cover designers, and more. Maybe even offer services to make an extra buck or two.
There’s something to be said for being present, in the moment, mindful. Whatever you like to call it, it is a powerful tool for dealing with stress and anxiety. For my own self, I try to make it a rule not to beat myself up for the events or disappointments from the day before. I allow myself to make new goals and start over everyday if need be.
I have found that being stuck in the past, worrying about things that I cannot change or have no control over, robs me of the energy I need to bring about the things that I want. I hope you will allow yourself that freedom and that it helps you to be less anxious so that you can focus on the things that make you happy. 🙂
- Yellow Ledbetter (Pearl Jam)
- One Headlight (The Wallflowers)
- Linger (The Cranberries)
- Crash Into Me (Dave Matthews Band)
- Smooth (Rob Thomas, Santana)
- Loser (Beck)
- Losing My Religion (REM)
- What’s Up (4 Non Blondes)
- No Rain (Blind Melon)
- Bullet with Butterfly Wings (Smashing Pumpkins)
Okay, this is how all consuming it is to be a writer. I write romantic thrillers, which I also love to read. Developing characters that readers fall in love with is part of my job. But, do you know what happens when the writer falls for the leading guy? You get jealous of your heroine. You start mourning the end of the book because you’re going to have to say goodbye to him. You’re really cranky and a little bit miffed that he doesn’t exist.
Then, you have to let him go and move on to the hunky guy that will live in your next book. What does that make me? A die hard romantic? Serial swooner? Hopefully both. 🙂
If you’ve never read H.P. Lovecraft and you’re a fan of genre fiction, you should definitely give it a try. Lovecraft is the founding father of modern horror like Stephen King and Dean Koontz and is a master at turning otherworldy specters and nightmares into reality. The complete works include supernatural horror, mystery, and suspense making it a nice addition to your hoard. In my opinion, the man was much more important than he is sometimes give credit for.